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April 5, 2008 | Filed in: Personal

As of about two weeks ago, Daniel and I are no longer “together”. The break-up was unexpected, although in hindsight it shouldn’t have been. The last few months have been really stressful and we hadn’t been getting along as well as we used to (although I thought things were slowly getting better…). We’re still roommates and friends. I think we actually get along better now.

Due to having very strict parents, I never went on a date (except for prom with a friend) until college. I met Daniel not too long after and we were together for almost exactly two years. The idea of dating is very much a novelty. I’ve made contact with a couple of people on OKCupid, a site I haven’t been active on (except to take the odd personality quiz) in a couple of years. I’m mainly looking for someone to have fun with. Nothing too serious right now.

Any advice for someone who knows nearly nothing about dating and such?

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To be honest I wouldn’t like to break up after a long-term relationship like 2 years. But it’s good that you’re still friends.

I don’t particularly like starting a relationship over an online profile site but that’s how I got together with my current bf so I can’t say much lol.

Just… Go with the flow. The right guy will come around when he feels like it.

I think being single can be summed up in one phrase: Go for it! Being single is great because you have that personal freedom to do things you never thought you would do - it’s a stage of your life where you can honestly just do whatever you want, whenever you want. Put yourself out there, meet new people, do different things!

I agree with what Amanda said - get out there an go for it. Mind you, don’t go “looking for” someone, you’ll be surprised how they tend to just appear when you’re single ;).

The only advice I can give is simply don’t try too hard. It’ll happen when it’s time for it to happen. You’ll meet some interesting people, and have a good time most of the time, but just go with the flow. Don’t look for things that aren’t there, don’t be too critical, and just enjoy meeting new people. Good luck with everything.

Sorry to hear that you and your boyfriend split up. I have never been on a date, so I’m afraid I can’t help you, but other commenters seem to have some good ideas.

Wow, my bf and I just broke up too. Six months in high school, no biggie. I’m over it, he’s not.

I hope you find someone great (either as a short-term fling or a long-term partner)! Truth be told, I’m afraid of both not being able to find someone in college AND finding MR. Right too soon so I won’t get to have fun dating. =OO I surprise myself with my logic too.

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